Answer these questions real quick for me:
Do you look in the mirror and tell yourself you don’t like the way you look?
Do you pick at your body parts by calling yourself names? Want them to be different?
Do you ever call yourself names like hopeless, useless or silly?
Do you measure yourself against others and state things like but she is ________ and I am not __________?
Do you have an imaginary but feels real deadline for when you are supposed to achieve certain milestones in your life and get angry with or berate yourself for not being there yet?
Do you worry about what others think of you way too much?
Do you feel like you are failing?
Does the word self love make you feel squeamish or want to laugh out loud sarcastically?
Now answer these questions for me:
Do you know your own potential?
Do you know and utilise your own skills?
Do you thank your body often and admire how amazing it is?
Do you remind yourself often that you are doing just fine?
Do you do small things in small ways to be kind to yourself sometimes?
Do you honour what a strong woman you are?
Are you proud of your achievements in life however small or big they may be?
Are you happy with the person you take out into the world?
Do you trust in this journey of life no matter what the lessons may be along the way?
Now answer this:
Do you feel you are 100% worthy of everything you want in your life?
Do you feel 100% that you are good enough?
How did you do?
Did you resonate with group A or group B questions?
And how do you feel about being ‘good enough?’
The only difference between the above perceptions and below perceptions of yourself is SIMPLY YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF VIA THE STORIES YOU TELL YOURSELF DAILY – THE WORDS INSIDE YOUR HEAD.
Let’s explore why perception and stories is everything when it comes to internal happiness, self worth and ‘being good enough’.
You see the mind can be very tricky and can have us believing all sorts of weird and wonderful things about ourselves and our life.
We don’t care why it does it. You’ll pay off a therapists house if you start asking the questions – why do I do this or say this or behave this way? You’ll sit in their office for years. And never have conclusive answers. Because no one in the history of man kind has ever nailed why the mind does what it does.
It’s like a slippery eel. But that eel can be transformed into a life long friend.
I care about YOU transforming your relationship to your stories. I care about tools that work to relieve you of struggling with yourself and empower you to see who you really are and running with what you are made of.
The only difference between a healthy perception versus someone who is extremely hard on themselves – is HOW MUCH WE BUY INTO WHAT WE TELL OURSELVES or whether we believe the words in our head or not.
You see people that tend to do quite well navigating this thing called life and are able to set intentions for their life and go about creating them all have one thing in common:
They don’t buy into negative self-talk. They don’t believe the stories that their mind tells them about themselves and the world around them.
In other words – they don’t FUSE with their mind.
They still say negative things to themselves. But they don’t listen to them. They don’t hang out with them. And somewhere along the line they have learned to speak kindly to themselves.
Awareness of how your little inner self voice works can be a profound shift towards a much, much happier and more abundant life.
In over 10 000 hours of coaching I’ve learned that people can be very, very hard on themselves. Everyone I work with has to write down their stories and get to know them well. Some of them would make you cry :-(
Being nasty to yourself is purely not helpful.
But what if there was a way for you to play with transforming them?
Guess what the most common unhelpful self limiting and down right nasty stories ALL boil down to:
The Story Of : ‘I’m Not Good Enough’
This perception we have dictates the life we end up living.
Which is why defusing the power of your inner self talk is the one tool I want every woman in this world to have under their belt.
Imagine if every woman spoke more kindly toward themselves, honoured their amazing body and utilised their skills to their full potential! Now that’s a world I’d like to live in. In fact it’s a vision I have to fulfil during my lifetime one mind at a time.
So starting today I have a challenge for you.
Listen to this video. I’ll explain how to defuse the I’m Not Good Enough stories and all it’s close cousins.
Tell me below what the story is you are going to defuse.
Tell me below one awesome thing you can say about yourself.
In this video I cover:
Defusing is not controlling.
Defusing is playful.
Watch vs engage
The funny voice
Dance it out
Can you be really honest with me about the way you talk to yourself?
Leave a comment and share with any woman in the world you know is hard on themselves.
Love Heidi x
P.S. If you know you are done with limiting yourself and you are ready to crack open your skills and run with them then it’s time to transform your mind. We create a balanced mind in my upcoming Balance & Beyond Course Join other women from around the globe for a transformational 7 day journey :)